JDHTWO

You've stumbled across the varied surface of the interwebs and you've arrived at my corner. I'm a husband and father. I'm a dog lover, personal finance geek and a theologian. I'm an extroverted-and-likes-friends person. I live in Pittsburgh, PA. I play drums and you're likely here due to Good Night, States.
tj:

lnthefade:

I don’t know who this J. Matthew guy is, but I do know from two days spent reading twitter replies, tumblr posts, comments and reddit screenshots that this is too prevalent an attitude. There are too many men out there who feel they are owed something from women, who think they have a proprietary ownership over the bodies of females. This stretches from seeing them naked, to denying their rights to abortions and birth control, to not listening when they say no.
I don’t know how these men were raised at home, but it’s my feeling that they were partially raised by a society which implicitly allows these attitudes, encourages them even, by having a large portion of the population shrug at these circumstances with a “boys will be boys” attitude. It doesn’t just come from what goes on inside homes, but from the entertainment industry, advertising, and the judicial system that lets a rapist go free and continue on with his high school football career while his victim continues to suffer. 
It’s all tied together. And it sucks.
This arrogant little screed by Johnny encapsulates all of that. 
So what do we do about the Johnnys of the world? How do we fight back against that? And how do we keep every new generation of males from becoming Johnnys? 
And “don’t take nude selfies” is not part of that answer. That’s part of the problem.

"It’s not fair that you get to choose who sees you naked." What the actual fuck is wrong with people?

tj:

lnthefade:

I don’t know who this J. Matthew guy is, but I do know from two days spent reading twitter replies, tumblr posts, comments and reddit screenshots that this is too prevalent an attitude. There are too many men out there who feel they are owed something from women, who think they have a proprietary ownership over the bodies of females. This stretches from seeing them naked, to denying their rights to abortions and birth control, to not listening when they say no.

I don’t know how these men were raised at home, but it’s my feeling that they were partially raised by a society which implicitly allows these attitudes, encourages them even, by having a large portion of the population shrug at these circumstances with a “boys will be boys” attitude. It doesn’t just come from what goes on inside homes, but from the entertainment industry, advertising, and the judicial system that lets a rapist go free and continue on with his high school football career while his victim continues to suffer. 

It’s all tied together. And it sucks.

This arrogant little screed by Johnny encapsulates all of that. 

So what do we do about the Johnnys of the world? How do we fight back against that? And how do we keep every new generation of males from becoming Johnnys? 

And “don’t take nude selfies” is not part of that answer. That’s part of the problem.

"It’s not fair that you get to choose who sees you naked."

What the actual fuck is wrong with people?

(Source: theagonyofdefeat)

thepeoplesrecord:

Columbia student will carry her mattress until her rapist exits school
September 2, 2014

While most students at Columbia University will spend the first day of classes carrying backpacks and books, Emma Sulkowicz will start her semester on Tuesday with a far heavier burden. The senior plans on carrying an extra-long, twin-size mattress across the quad and through each New York City building – to every class, every day – until the man she says raped her moves off campus.

“I was raped in my own bed,” Sulkowicz told me the other day, as she was gearing up to head back to school in this, the year American colleges are finally, supposedly, ready to do something about sexual assault. “I could have taken my pillow, but I want people to see how it weighs down a person to be ignored by the school administration and harassed by police.”

Sulkowicz is one of three women who made complaints to Columbia against the same fellow senior, who was found “not responsible” in all three cases. She alsofiled a police report, but Sulkowicz was treated abysmally – by the cops, and by a Columbia disciplinary panel so uneducated about the scourge of campus violence that one panelist asked how it was possible to be anally raped without lubrication.

So Sulkowicz joined a federal complaint in April over Columbia’s mishandling of sexual misconduct cases, and she will will hoist that mattress on her shoulders as part savvy activism, part performance art. “The administration can end the piece, by expelling him,” she says, “or he can, by leaving campus.”

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As painful as I know the constant reminder of attending school with her rapist must be, I’m glad she won’t be the only one forced to remember. I hope the rapist drops out immediately…or better yet, I hope he faces the justice he deserves. 

(via orientaltiger)

I like to think of it like you’re at a party drinking champagne, and the host is refilling your glass, and at the end of the party it’s like, ‘How many glasses of champagne did you have?’ Just one!

—James Freeman, the founder of Blue Bottle Coffee, talking to Fast Company about how much coffee he drinks each day. (via parislemon)

This is the argument that I always feel like never gets as much traction as the ‘tortured artist’ argument, [which] is that artists actually have it a little easier because everybody fucking suffers but artists have something to do with it.

bryanschutmaat:

iPhone landscapes — lots more at instagram.com/bryanschutmaat.

Beauty.

(Source: joelbearstudios, via kmaynard)

tj:


  "But Lord, during the hardest trials of my life, why was there only one set of footprints?"
  
  "Because," said the Lord, "Sandpeople always ride single-file, to hide their numbers."


If you’ll pardon the pun, and its inherent borderline blasphemy, OH MY GOD that’s funny.

via darkuncle:
reddit

tj:

"But Lord, during the hardest trials of my life, why was there only one set of footprints?"

"Because," said the Lord, "Sandpeople always ride single-file, to hide their numbers."

If you’ll pardon the pun, and its inherent borderline blasphemy, OH MY GOD that’s funny.

via darkuncle: reddit

(via tj)

nevver:

Dead at 63, Robin Williams

nevver:

Dead at 63, Robin Williams